This post will end up being a long rant of emotions and literally pouring my heart out to you.
It’s nice when people from the outside see you and have so much admiration for you just because you got into this field.
If only they could experience a quarter of what really goes on in this place called Med school, they would’ve got a whole bunch of pity for us
Being in medical school, for the past 5 years has been a rollercoaster of a ride. I say this often but that’s the best way to put it.
Even worse when you have no family members particularly in this field or no better friends to advise you on certain things. All you can do is get excited and just imagine how great it’s going to be
So for me just, like any freshman, I was way too excited to get admitted into one of the best in my country.
As to the details, I’d break them down into these sections
1. You need to move fast
There is no time to adjust over here. You have to learn it the hard way and it should be evident.
I remember being that timid, slow and easily offended kinda girl before med school. I really didn’t care for anything in this world, primarily because I had almost everything at my disposal, I didn’t have to work or cry hard before getting certain things neither did I have any cultivated work ethic.
That really is not the attitude you need in order to survive in medical school. You need the working attitude that doesn’t say stop, you need to literally be running around on the ward, not walking on the runway, you need to take all the seemingly harsh comments from your seniors/lecturers so you can move on.
It’s kind of a fight and flight situation without knowing where the adrenaline comes from
Even in your thinking, making a diagnosis, how you study; in everything, you need to be on your feet else you’ll totally fail.
I failed a couple of times, especially in my first year.
Typical me, had the conversation with the parents. You know what they did?
The next vacation I was on a ‘solo’ trip to London, working 8-5 sometimes earlier and closing late, having just Mondays off to rest. That’s when I realized life is not all fun and games when it comes to working. And when I say working, I mean do these people’s cleaning and laundry for them in order to pay my parents back all that ticket money and dash them the rest
From there, I’ve upgraded on that part of me
2. You’ll feel like giving up often
I’ve been at this phase of life several times. I know some people will say ‘oh then you don’t have passion for the job” and what not but that happens a lot of the time and it’s a hundred per cent normal.
How you choose to handle that instinct matters the more.
My recent breakdown was from last semester. One I would ever forget.
It was close to exam time and I couldn’t point my finger at precisely what I had learned not to talk of the ongoing pandemic. Whenever I was asked a question in class, I’d go blank. And it was a few days left for the final exams!
I went as far as questioning my purpose on earth but what kept ringing left right centre was that it’s all in the most beautiful love song of mine. Without these tunes intertwined in it, it’ll be a dead flat rhythm. That’s how I approach it and embrace it as well
It was a beautiful testimony in the end, by the way
Read here on how God made me pass my exam
3. Your friendships won’t stay the same
It’s quite sad and difficult to understand how this happens but about 80% of the time, you’ll lose the friends you started off with.
I, for one, gave up on one or two friendships I thought “would be an everlasting love“. I was pained and hurt at the time but maybe now I see why I lost them.
This is not cliche but some friends are really meant for a season. Some attitudes and influences are only required at certain points in your life. It’s ok to let them go. Those who’ll stick around will stick around.
Not saying this so you just give up on friends at the thought of it but if it’s beyond your strength then let it be.
4. You’ll love it as the years go by
I remember having to sit through 2-hour lectures and either complaining or dozing off. I look back and just break out into laughter because now, I can have back to back lectures and ward work without feeling a flinch.
It warms my heart also when I take the history (past medical notes) from a patient, examine them and make a correct diagnosis for them. Even happier when they get treated for and are discharged.
It’s like you’ve found purpose in what you do and it’s so amazing
All the years of sleepless nights and sweats begin to make sense in the long run. It’s something to cherish for a lifetime
5. Your relationship status will be stagnant
And finally on that, huhhh…
This is like writing an essay on “Distinguish between medical students and other university students.”
It’s clear that you can’t have all the fun there is to enjoy in a normal university setting because first of all, you haven’t read the 400009th book for the clinical rotation and it’ll keep haunting you.
It’s a difficult thing to sacrifice but you do it anyways
Not to say, I haven’t seen the 1000s of relationship goals on campus that are thriving as well, but the sistas that have Galentines on Val’s day are way too outnumbered.
It’s all about balance really and knowing who you are
You can definitely make it work in medical school
On that note, I have to catch up on the Resident while completing an assignment (it’s called Multitasking. How is that even possible)
Let me know what you’ve learnt in medical school so far or any questions you have if you’re now entering, in the comment section below
See you soon. XoXo